From May 2007
Sometimes I really do hate Mondays. I can't believe the weekend is over. I just read my Saturday entry, full of hope of what the weekend could bring and now it's all over. (Gee, even my writing is dreary - lol). I just really don't want to be at work, that's all. If I were at home today, I'd be happy as a clam!
Yesterday ended up being a pretty nice day including the Mother's Day part. I got up the gumption to go visit a friend (whom I've talked about before on this blog). I really felt an inner push that it was time to just go stop by her house -- I haven't seen nor talked to her since February. I took her one of the Lavender plants that I purchased at Home Depot and filled out a friendship card and wished her a happy Mother's Day. I ended up staying and visiting with her for over 3 hours. I don't quite know anymore why we don't do things more often. I realize we are both dealing with issues with each other -- I think I know what mine are, but I'm not sure what hers are. My guess is that her physical condition (being confined to a wheelchair) is the largest issue -- causing me guilt for not being there for her more often and probably causing her a level of depression that makes her isolate herself from others. I miss her dearly though... and I keep telling myself it doesn't have to be that way. I can be near her and have all the fun times that we used to have before the accident. We talked about getting together to scrapbook. I need to make sure I push that and make it happen. I'd like to do something with her at least every other week.
I also spent some time with my mom. One of my brothers invited her out to his house. Two of my nieces cooked their mom and my mom dinner. It was yummy and a nice visit. I also gave her a lavendar plant and a scrapbook page that I made a duplicate of from one of my own pages. It was a dedication to her as one of my favorite people. It made her cry , which means "it hit the spot". I don't spend as much time with my family anymore, unfortunately. Part of my increasing independence from others creeping in as well as my time being so limited anymore.
AND then at the end of the day, I had a nice phone conversation with a friend that lives in Arizona. We've been talking more regularly lately and it's nice to get to know him again.
The day was filled with lots of reconnecting. Great way to spend a Sunday! I just want to have more days like that instead of sitting at my desk pushing paper - lol
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Friday, July 31, 2009
Saturday, July 25, 2009
GIVING THANKS
FROM NOVEMBER 2006
I know I'm over a week late with this entry, but I still wanted to reflect a little bit on my Thanksgiving. This year Thanksgiving was different than what I had gotten used to from the past few years. Traditionally, I have gone to my brother's house where his family cooks a great meal and I hang out all day, playing games, etc. This year I geared up for the same event, purchasing a few of the ingredients needed to make the dishes that I have been asked to bring for several years in a row.
On the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, my mom called to ask what I was doing for Thanksgiving. I replied that I planned to do what I usually did (which is also where she goes). She had said she hadn't heard from my sister-in-law yet. I told her that she probably didn't need to worry, I hadn't heard from her yet either. My sister-in-law is sometimes a bit last minute when it comes to these things, and so I hadn't really worried about it. So my mom said she'd give her a call just to make sure they were carrying through with their traditional plans. Shortly after my mom called to tell me that they had decided to go to my sister-in-law's aunts this year and not cook a dinner at their house.
I was a bit ticked. She could have called us, a week before even, to let us know so we could make alternative plans. But I began to realize that I shouldn't be so quick to assume I can just show up at someone's house to be fed. And I could have called her to check in just as well. The next morning my sister-in-law called to apologize for forgetting about us. I accepted her apology but denied her invitation to join them at her aunts house.
So for Thanksgiving I joined my mom at her house, where I grew up. We didn't have turkey or the usual "fixings". But it was still a very nice dinner. And best of all, I spent some quality time with my mom alone. It's not that I don't have the opportunity to spend time with her, it's that I don't take the opportunity as often as I should. After we ate, we spent some time reviewing some of the family history that she has so much of. I helped her burn copies of some onto discs that she wants to give to family for Christmas. I also burned her some of my Christmas music that I had stored on my computer. And all along the way she jabbered (as usual) about many different things. Sometimes her jabbering gets a bit tiring... and yet I remind myself that she won't always be here and I should be thankful for the moments that I get to hear her talk of the many things she is doing.
It was a great day and I felt very thankful for the way it turned out.
I know I'm over a week late with this entry, but I still wanted to reflect a little bit on my Thanksgiving. This year Thanksgiving was different than what I had gotten used to from the past few years. Traditionally, I have gone to my brother's house where his family cooks a great meal and I hang out all day, playing games, etc. This year I geared up for the same event, purchasing a few of the ingredients needed to make the dishes that I have been asked to bring for several years in a row.
On the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, my mom called to ask what I was doing for Thanksgiving. I replied that I planned to do what I usually did (which is also where she goes). She had said she hadn't heard from my sister-in-law yet. I told her that she probably didn't need to worry, I hadn't heard from her yet either. My sister-in-law is sometimes a bit last minute when it comes to these things, and so I hadn't really worried about it. So my mom said she'd give her a call just to make sure they were carrying through with their traditional plans. Shortly after my mom called to tell me that they had decided to go to my sister-in-law's aunts this year and not cook a dinner at their house.
I was a bit ticked. She could have called us, a week before even, to let us know so we could make alternative plans. But I began to realize that I shouldn't be so quick to assume I can just show up at someone's house to be fed. And I could have called her to check in just as well. The next morning my sister-in-law called to apologize for forgetting about us. I accepted her apology but denied her invitation to join them at her aunts house.
So for Thanksgiving I joined my mom at her house, where I grew up. We didn't have turkey or the usual "fixings". But it was still a very nice dinner. And best of all, I spent some quality time with my mom alone. It's not that I don't have the opportunity to spend time with her, it's that I don't take the opportunity as often as I should. After we ate, we spent some time reviewing some of the family history that she has so much of. I helped her burn copies of some onto discs that she wants to give to family for Christmas. I also burned her some of my Christmas music that I had stored on my computer. And all along the way she jabbered (as usual) about many different things. Sometimes her jabbering gets a bit tiring... and yet I remind myself that she won't always be here and I should be thankful for the moments that I get to hear her talk of the many things she is doing.
It was a great day and I felt very thankful for the way it turned out.
IT'S INDEPENDENCE DAY!
FROM TUESDAY, JULY 4, 2006
Happy Fourth of July!
At first today just felt like any other day. Sometimes I purposely make holidays feel that way, so that I can avoid the anti-climatic ending. Ya know... like Christmas after all the gifts have been opened and you've played with all the toys and gadgets you or others were given.
But I spent the day with one of my good friends. I also went and visited my mom during some of that time. We took some pictures around the house/farm I grew up on. (The photo below is one of those. My
mom will use just about anything as a planter, like the bottom of this suitcase!)
Then this evening I just stayed at home and a friend came over. I live very close to where the fireworks are lit in our town and could partially see them from my backyard. We ended up walking down the street a bit to get a better view. This new neighborhood I live in is quite the festive bunch. I did not lack for firework entertainment, both the legal and illegal kind.
Anyway, it ended up being a pretty good day. And I made sure that I spent at least a few minutes remembering why we celebrate it in the first place. (That is usually a goal of mine at each holiday, since it seems that society gets caught up in a lot of the practices and traditions without understanding the meaning.)
Happy Fourth of July!
At first today just felt like any other day. Sometimes I purposely make holidays feel that way, so that I can avoid the anti-climatic ending. Ya know... like Christmas after all the gifts have been opened and you've played with all the toys and gadgets you or others were given.
But I spent the day with one of my good friends. I also went and visited my mom during some of that time. We took some pictures around the house/farm I grew up on. (The photo below is one of those. My
mom will use just about anything as a planter, like the bottom of this suitcase!)Then this evening I just stayed at home and a friend came over. I live very close to where the fireworks are lit in our town and could partially see them from my backyard. We ended up walking down the street a bit to get a better view. This new neighborhood I live in is quite the festive bunch. I did not lack for firework entertainment, both the legal and illegal kind.
Anyway, it ended up being a pretty good day. And I made sure that I spent at least a few minutes remembering why we celebrate it in the first place. (That is usually a goal of mine at each holiday, since it seems that society gets caught up in a lot of the practices and traditions without understanding the meaning.)
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